When I was at Alt a few weeks, I went to a great photo styling session taught by Candice Stringham of HandmadeMood. She mentioned that after seeing some of the behind-the-scenes tricks used by photographers someone told her "all blogs are lies." That line has really stuck with me.
I read a lot of of blogs, like there's 129 different blogs in my bloglovin feed. Those 129 I read regularly. I also read some occasionally by following the blogger on twitter. That doesn't even count the few blogs that I subscribe to via email. That's a whole lotta blog posts and a whole lotta lies.
As I blogger myself I really do try to be honest. I put stuff out there. I share my fears and my frustrations. I share my failures. I really work hard to make sure that readers know it's not all rainbows and sunshine.
But all blogs are lies. Most often I think that blogs lie by omission. For example, I take a photo every day on a clean white background. What you might not know is that our dining room is a complete disaster most of the time. We eat here. We homeschool here. Most of the time the table is so completely covered we have to move piles of stuff to have room to do anything. All of that is conveniently left out of the frame of my photos.
Another example, I often don't mention which of the paintings that I hate. You might be led to believe that I'm just so completely happy with every single painting, every single day. You don't really think that, do you? Some days I cringe when I upload and post the photo.
I think blogs are lies because we are all just faking it. We're faking confidence. We're faking experience. I mean I'm just pretending that I know what I'm doing. I try stuff. If it goes terribly, I change it. And I usually don't mention just how terribly it went.
So while I think that yeah all blogs are lies, I don't really think it's always a bad thing. This lie, I mean blog, that I've been keeping for the past year has changed me. It might even be less of a lie now than it was one year ago. I may not be as disciplined or as organized or as creative as this blog implies but I value those things. And because of this lie, I mean blog, I'm working on them.